Conversation relationship advice tips

Keep the item under discussion is very easy in a debate to address other issues that are not part of what is being discussed. The new argument is often related to this issue, but it is the person who changed the subject feels stronger or feels that they have the opportunity to discuss with success. The problem is that the other partner, he wanted to continue talking about the original theme, may feel harmed the shortcut, and this resentment will prevent a good discussion to continue. The debate on the original plot should ideally continue until both parties are satisfied that it solves or timer signals the end of the debate.

Avoid closure and stay flexible and still, it is very easy to be interested in winning the argument, or reach a conclusion to the debate. This is not the best approach, because this conclusion is generally at the expense of a couple who feels defeated, or at least misunderstood. It is much better to say at the end: "we go with the discussion for another time, or say: ' disagrees, but respect their right to have their own opinions." More importantly, maintain flexibility and keep as many options open as possible. For example, never use the word "never"! Try to make things as vague as possible at the end of each discussion. The priority is not to win the battle, but to maintain the relationship.

Don't be afraid of losing an argument, sometimes couples discuss until they win or proves his point. The fact that they are in competition means that neither of them can give without losing face. However, if a couple decides to deliberately and makes it clear that they are doing so, the other partner is facing a dilemma. You can go ahead with the issue and they insist to probably win in the final feeling guilty for having done so, or both partners can join and play the game. It is often better for us to find a way to leave the topic rather than allowing him to continue unabated.

Try to not blame the other person, obviously this is more easily said that the fact, but still worth it. Few things in life are exclusively the fault of a person.

Reports, there is always a long series of interactions that lead to a crisis and each partner in greater or lesser extent has contributed to the situation. The person usually held on a topic you feel burning about it and need to have a way to escape the argument without being humiliated. Requires an act of Holiness by other partners to avoid casting blame if you feel that it deserves, but that it is actually probably the best bet for a general report improves. A possible way of addressing the problem is to ban all discussion of guilt and continue with the debate, as far as possible, without criticizing.

Try to keep the discussion focused on the present and future good constructive discussion is normally many recriminations and a good way to avoid this is to focus on what you're doing "here and now" or in their plans for the immediate future. It is easier to avoid blame if you can keep away from the past in their discussions. If you're capable of doing, focus on the planning so you can do about the problems, rather than trying to determine the causes of them.

Training exercise: communication established a period of discussion (ten minutes without interruption) decide what you want to talk (may be a recent program of television, book or a newspaper article that one or both of Lee) speaks of the 'I' position; in other words starting with 'talk', in short phrases, sentences and leave a space for their show of response of partner that you understand where your partner comes relative sensitivity (empathy) his partner tries to finish everything you say, with a positive comment to keep the item under discussion, without fault for trying to avoid decisions summarized or closing of comments; Don't be afraid of losing an argument (as a tactic) If doubt its views does not agree with its partners "different agreement"